Over the weekend, a video was posted of Syracuse University student-athlete Hannah Strong, who is white, shouting the double-barrel slur(s) “faggot-ass nigger” at someone off camera before telling them not to record her and calling them “nigger” once more.
It’s a short, shaky clip that starts with her berating a black man who has his hands in the air for some reason, and it is no understatement to say it’s unclear from the video what was going on there, with the one exception that she definitely used two of our most hateful slurs.
They’re not thinking about the fact that this is a widespread phenomenon.
They’re just thinking about their own personal preferences. It’s cultural, it’s national, and it’s fucking everywhere. Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, writes: Scrolling through Ok Cupid’s blog, you’ll stumble across a myriad of depressing race stats.
I hadn’t been on Tinder for long before I realized something was wrong: Hardly anyone was reciprocating my interest. None of my close friends, many of whom relied exclusively on the dating app to meet singles, seemed to be encountering this problem. Was there a grammatical error in my personal statement? What they found was that users placed a premium on members of their own race.
In 2009, Ok Trends, the research arm of the dating website Ok Cupid, parsed user data to determine racial preferences in online dating.
White people, we have to retire the excuse that you can’t be racist if you’re dating/sleeping with/married to a black person. I think that in its ideal incarnation, being intimately involved with someone of another race or ethnicity can help you gain insight into their life and culture, and vice versa, until part of your love for them includes understanding, appreciation, and respect for their heritage in a way that would make prejudice or bigoted thoughts and feelings an impossibility.“Switching Teams” is a phrase I have often heard out the mouths of men and women who have experienced repeated dissatisfaction when dating individuals of their own race.I hear women jokingly declare that they are “opening up their minds” and “expanding their horizons,” after growing tired of empty-ending love affairs with men of their race.Had users become more open-minded in their dating practices in the past half-decade?The data suggested a different narrative: Their biases had become even more pronounced.Should you choose to engage with a person who is not or has not been exposed to your culture, encourage them to be inquisitive. People have their own reasons for why they believe people should only date within their race and sadly, we will never live in a world where people understand that you love who you love.